PEM is sooooo hard. Self advocating is hard. It's all hard. I'm sorry you're having a bad time after the vets. I still repeatedly get caught out by doing 'little' extra things. There is no shame in that, go gently with yourself, I'm sure you wouldn't think someone else in your position should be ashamed about any of it. Be that nice to yourself! (I got told that recently and actually it has helped) X
Yes, it's very true I'd naturally be kinder to others than myself and I am trying to be gentle and compassionate. Part of my sadness is just how unnatural it is to be as kind to myself as I am to others. Maybe it's grief at realizing how deeply I've been conned by the societal conditioning that says I'm not important and that the right thing to do is put myself last.
PEM is sooooo hard. Self advocating is hard. It's all hard. I'm sorry you're having a bad time after the vets. I still repeatedly get caught out by doing 'little' extra things. There is no shame in that, go gently with yourself, I'm sure you wouldn't think someone else in your position should be ashamed about any of it. Be that nice to yourself! (I got told that recently and actually it has helped) X
Yes, it's very true I'd naturally be kinder to others than myself and I am trying to be gentle and compassionate. Part of my sadness is just how unnatural it is to be as kind to myself as I am to others. Maybe it's grief at realizing how deeply I've been conned by the societal conditioning that says I'm not important and that the right thing to do is put myself last.
That really resonates with me too x